Disposable people

I do not like to admit it, but I have a lot of free time during weekends. And I tend to think how to reorganise my life, my goals and my daily routine. I try to be social, I try to do some serious change management, but not randomly, on the contrary I try to see the trade-offs and plan about the change. 

So, I spend a lot of time thinking. By the way, thinking, not an easy activity. 

And this weekend I couldn't help but wonder at what degree we treat people as they are disposable, nowadays. This is a very complicated issue if you ask me, and of course you can be easily under the label "rude" if you dare to characterise someone as disposable. But let's not stand on the label part, or the calling names part. Let's focus on our behaviour. 

And let's make a hypothesis in order to base the thinking on something common. The hypothesis is that life is linear (I don't believe that generally, but let's be open about it and assume) and that we go through time in one direction only, forward. So, we are a dot that moves forward into time. And this dot can become bigger by experiences, knowledge and acquaintances. I strongly believe that we are formed by the people we meet in life. The question is at what degree we are formed and what correlation between the degree and the moment of meeting exists. 

It has come to my attention that people who follow routines like studying have different opinion about the time that people affect your behaviour than people who started a career right away, or even chose to start by creating a family. I mention those, because in my little reality these are milestones and important decisions in one's life. 

If you have studied, the most important period of your life, when you get to meet many people and get influenced by new ideas and personalities, is the studying period. When you are a student! For me, this is the period in my life that formed me the most and created a big part of what Candy is now- so blame my classmates and friends of that period! They will deny the degree they influence me, but you have to trust me on that, I am their fault! :P 

If you have not studied directly after school, I guess that an important milestone to meet people in your life that had an important impact on you is school, and perhaps the working environment- the friends you get there. 

Ok, I tend to write a lot now, I should stop the introduction and cut to the chase. I am afraid that as we grow old and have already formed the character and the personality that as dots will have for the rest of our linear lives, we tend to treat people as disposable more and more. We meet people daily, or frequently let's say, we do not pay much attention, we don't share a lot, we just happen to exist at the same coordinates sometimes and that is it. And here comes my question. "Why? Is this safe? Is this sane? Is this healthy?" 

I am bored easily- unfortunately. I have a difficulty in finding people that excite me or make an impression on me that I want to spend more time with them. 

I love my friends, and I love my new friends, don't get me wrong- I am too sentimental not to love them anyway. But, as for the rest, I meet people constantly, and I frankly couldn't care less. I don't want to listen, I don't want to know more and I don't want them to be a part of my life. 

Until something good happens. And you realise that you have just met a person that could add something interestingly new in your already formed and scheduled reality. And usually, that person does not share the same impression with you. Yes, when you find someone that is not disposable in your little universe, you have a strong possibility that you end up as a disposable one in theirs. 

Summing up, is there a way to sync the excitement and the importance of acquaintances? How can we just work on it? Is there a way to practise? To care more? 

Do you follow my point here, cause I struggled much to start from a beginning point and reach the point my crazy thoughts reach. And one more disturbing question, do we really want more exciting people in our lives after a specific point, or do we subconsciously believe that we have had enough people and we don't have the time or the patience for more? 

Ok, you got the root cause of this analysis. I have work to do so I write philosophical stupidities that can be renamed to Candy-dities. Pfff. Whatever!